Getting TOO Comfortable With Singlehood

What is the BIG Deal?

As I have expressed in various ways before, Singlehood is the time to refine yourself in Christ. Take this season to understand the beauty, sacredness, weight, concept, definition, and so forth of what marriage is, what it will call for you to be, and how the Bible established it to be. Singlehood is not a “light matter.” What you do in this season of your life, will set the foundation of what you will bring to your future spouse. I am not saying that you have to be 100% ready, and perfect for you mate. This is not the image I want to create. What I am saying, is what will you bring to the table? Will GOD have a seat prepared for you? Were you sowing intentionally, and carefully while in this season?

As it is stated numerously in the Bible, (Galatians 6:7, 2 Corinthians 9:6, Luke 6:38, Job 4:8), what you sow, is what you will reap. It does not matter what you do in the latter. When the harvest is ready, IT IS READY! In other words, even if you are "planting well” now, you will still have to face the consequences of your past. It is inevitable. However, do not dwell too long on the past. Make the decision to be better today!

With that said, do not get “TOO” comfortable in this season to the point that you start deciding to be the author of your life. You begin to "order the steps” of your destiny.

You will say things such as:

“No, he does not have the ‘it’ factor that I need my man to have.

No, she lacks in this area that I have no tolerance for.

I'll just keep to myself”

Instead of being inclined to the Holy Spirit’s direction, and its’ discernment, you start telling, and negotiating with the Holy Spirit, who, and when, you believe “is the time” for you to transition out of Singlehood. The Bible has expressed, and shown, many times how obedience is better than sacrifice (1 Samuel 15:22). You may even begin sabotaging possible connections because you are comfortable of where you are. Every person that comes, and may have interest in you, you will start to find the negatives, and what will not work for you. Keep in mind that you too are not perfect, and may not be rated in all areas as “excellent" in the eyes of others.

The Difference

There is a difference between being content with GOD, versus being comfortable with GOD.

Content is defined by Google as: “ In a state of peaceful happiness."

Content says:

"Lord, whatever happens tomorrow, I shall trust you."

"You are enough for me."

"I am completed with You.”

(Read Philippians 4:6-8 & 4:11-14)

Comfortable is defined by Dictionary Reference as: “Being in a state of physical or mental comfort; contented an undisturbed; at ease."

Comfortable says:

“I can stay here forever.”

“I am attached to the familiar.”

“Lord, You don’t have to do no more. Can I please just stay here?”

(Read Jeremiah 7:24)

There is no challenge, no growth in being comfortable. As Pastor D.H.Dawkins once expressed “I’ve never met anyone who change from a position of comfort. We change when uncomfortable. Welcome discomfort, it is how you grow." In order to grasp this, you must indeed go through it!

You have now become accustomed to being alone. You have the luxury of not checking in with anyone, all of your time is centered around yourself, and you are free to do what you want! (YESSS!) You are committed to you. You know you, because you are you! Now to place that type of trust on someone else yields vulnerability, and trust. This means you have to step out of your comfort zone, and into your faith. Easier said then done of course! You will ask questions like “Is this even worth it?”

Keep in Mind

Remember, we were not only created to praise GOD, but also to be fruitful, and multiply! I do not know the last time you checked, but in order to properly follow what GOD has commanded us in this area of our lives, this means you have to get married. Be in a relationship. Be in relations with someone. Become one with someone else. This is why our flesh yearns to for the affection of another person (heterosexually speaking). There is a reason why a man needs a woman, and why a woman needs a man. We were meant to come together, and glorify GOD’s name. Selah.

Every time I catch myself getting “comfortable,” with being by myself, GOD reminds me of how the love I have inside of me was not meant to kept within me, but to be given to my spouse (holding the tears back as I write this). He reminds me that I am wife. The husband that I am being prepared for needs my attention, affection, and support. I am not suppose to be alone (Genesis 2:8). I have too much love harboring inside. As much as I would be comfortable with being to myself, I realize that I would not being fulfilling my purpose. GOD is not a one-dimensional GOD. He has wired us to be more than comfortable. We were created to be purposeful.

The other side to this, some of us may be called to be single for the rest of our lives. "Paul’s statement to the unmarried and widows in the Corinthian church gives evidence that he was not married at the time of his writing the letter: 'Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I am. But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion'" (1 Corinthians 7:8-9)(Gotquestions.org)(Please read the above text in its' entirety context for better understanding). This is a WHOLE other post, but what I am saying is that we do not know what GOD has called us to be. This is why you must be anchored in a relationship GOD to know where your next move should be made.

Who GOD Is

GOD is a jealous GOD (Exodus 34:14). He does not want you to worship anyone or anything that is not of Him (Leviticus 2:61). This includes YOURSELF. Pride is an ugly thang! Pride is not your friend. “Pride goeth before destruction, and an haughty spirit before a fall” (Proverbs 16:18, KJV) You will only lose in the end. Trust in GOD! I want to be so lost in Christ, that through the Holy Spirit, I am able to hear ALL of the right directions to take. If GOD says "go left"—I will go left! If He says “No he’s not the one,” then I want to remove myself. If He says “Yes take that position,” then I will do so! That is how hand-on I want GOD to be in my life. I NEED Him to be with me! I am lost without Him! I am a mess without Him!

If you call yourself a Child of GOD, Saved, Santcitifed, Filled with Holy Ghost, then where is your faith? Yes! Take this time in, but remember, greater is coming. Do not get so wrapped up in yourself that you fall in love with yourself, and fall out of love with GOD! Did ya'll here me?! To love GOD is to keep Hs commandments (John 14:15, 1 John 5:3). Do not miss your opportunity!

We all have freewill.

We all have a choice.

What will be yours?

Selah!!!

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